Closest people...lack of support

Have you ever felt like the people closest to you(family members) are the ones that are always rooting against you? Well, I've always felt like that with certain people in my life and it seems the more they know the more negativity they dump on you. They don't realize they are stuck in their mindset and instead of sharing wisdom about challenges of life, they teach you to run away.

Sometimes I wonder if these people realize that they are setting a bad example for the future generation. Don't they know making excuses and trying to shelter their kids is only teaching them to run away from their problems.

I wish I had more money and send those people to a psychologist so they can see that they are the ones that are messed up and need major help.

Stress stress stress...

So the search for the right location, the right office continues! The stress of searching is really intense, it feels like there are too many road blocks. At the same time I know these challenges and stress are meant to bring us to the right place, just not quite sure where and when!

What if we don't find what we're looking for here, will we attempt to look at other locations like New York? Do I want to go back there? No way but hey if it means a business opportunity for us, why not. We're starting to entertaining that idea by looking at whats open there and considered how that transition would take place if we did find something there. Or are our standards here too high?!?

Trying to stay positive and look to God for strength to keep looking and keeping the right attitude!

No pain no gain that is my motto!

The reality is everyone has pain in their life some a little some a lot. It never stops coming. Some people avoid dealing with it while others look at how this pain can bring them gain. As you navigate through life you have to learn to deal with all kinds of things especially difficulties in your life that cause you pain, whether it’s physical pain, emotional pain, financial pain, or familial pain, we all experience have it. If people accept pain as part of life and learn to work through it,  their lives will become a lot more enjoyable. People who avoid dealing with it ultimately find ways to numb that pain either with drugs, food, television, video games, or shopping.

I’ve met people who constantly complain about things nonstop but never do anything to improve their circumstance. Instead of finding solutions, or working towards improving their situation they just look for someone to blame, becoming a victim.  It takes an effort to deal with a circumstance that’s causing you pain but if it could improve your life wouldn’t you make that effort? Nothing good comes for free! You truly have to work at improving your life and solving problems that cause you pain!

I went through lots of pain as a child! I never blamed the people who caused me that horrible pain. I look back now and so thankful for that hardship because it made me the person that I am today.

Some people make excuses as to why their circumstances can’t be changed.  They blame others for not having a better life a better house, a better family, better health…etc.  If you want to improve your life, look within and stop looking for someone to blame for your suffering. Being a victim never solved anything.  Start turning the tide by accepting you are in control and take positive steps to change what is causing you pain.

You can’t buy REAL love with gifts

Valentines is here and all the love birds out there are looking for a way to shower each other with flowers, candy and even jewelry! I used to want that too until I found real love! Don’t get me wrong I still like presents just not on this holiday.

I think it’s not fair for a people to be pressured into buying stuff or taking their date out somewhere just because it’s a holiday.  A lot of money is spent on this holiday and guess what people will spend whatever it takes to “Prove their Love.” Shouldn’t it matter how a couple spends time together and how creative they can get vs. how much money they spend on one another?!? What matters most is when a man/woman make an effort without having a reminder on a daily basis!

Valentines is a huge money maker for the economy and don’t get me wrong I like hearing this news because the markets are growing but REAL love takes place when no one Is looking, when no one is expecting anything from one another. Real love is so much deeper than flowers and candy. It took many years for me to understand this but I guess it takes growing older to grasp and appreciate this wisdom.

Ignoring Problems = Road to NOWHERE

Every time we run into a problem we have a choice to make. We also have to decide on the approach we will take to tackle our problem.  

If we think of a problem as a “challenge” that we can conquer and grow from we will have a different, more fruitful result after the problem is solved. We will have more energy and more motivation to deal with it as well.

We have to make a choice: (1) to go for it or (2) to run from it. 

Deciding to face the challenge will be difficult or even frightful. But if we don’t move towards this resistance we are stealing from ourselves. We’re stealing chance to grow as a person, socially, intellectually, spiritually…. In every way imaginable!

How lucky are we to get this chance to gain experience through a challenge, through this so-called-problem! If things are going great in our lives we never get a chance to boost our current situation, our current circumstance. We are stuck, we don’t grow.

The easy road leads to a place called “NOWHERE”. At this “NOWHERE” place you can expect to find those who have been running away or are currently running away from conflicts, problems, or any challenge. When you suppress or not deal with your problem/challenge over time things start to compound and in the long run you might not be happy with your life, wondering why!

Do yourself a favor; take positive steps addressing the challenges in your life. First acknowledge, and then find time to search for solutions. If Other people are part of the problem, guess what a conversation has to take place to solve the problem.

Fueling your mind and body!

I’m curious how many people strive to read something on a daily basis. Not something off the internet but a book, a magazine, news paper?  I know after I finished college finding time to read was so challenging yet I was always craving that time to myself. It’s so important to constantly fill your mind with information or a new way of thinking. You constantly have to go out of your way to fuel up your mind otherwise you start to get rusty.

I think that when you stop pouring knowledge or challenge your own belief system you start to live in a box. Maybe I’m wrong but I know that happens to me sometimes. When I’m idle for a while and don’t make an effort to read a book my thinking becomes very limited.

Same applies to eating, do you know when sometimes you want to eat something and the first thing in sight is a bag of chips or a candy bar. It’s easily available but when you chow it down you really don’t feel your best. To feel your best you constantly have to make an effort to get better food or plan ahead. I’ve made this mistake so many times but I remind myself the value of doing things the right way and try again to improve.

Letting go of people that don't belong in your life.

Have you ever been friends with someone who oozes negativity. The moment you are around them you start feeling great anxiety coming over you. Their body language, facial expressions and their conversation topics just make you want to run for the hills!

These individuals are always talking about how bad life is on their end, how nothing good comes their way, always nagging about other people and blaming others for their misfortunes. I'm sure we all resemble some of this in a small way but these people breathe negativity.

I'm sure we all know someone who resembles this person. The reason I bring this up is I used to be close friends with someone like that and know a few people now.  I've noticed when I was around this type of person, my mind slowly started to view everything from their pessimistic perspective.

When I was younger and was trying to navigate through many difficult circumstances I would always go to church. I conversed with people who just always looked on the bright side of things. Over the years I've developed a habit to seek good and positive in every difficult situation. But as a teen I met someone who became a close friend. Most of our friendship was long distance because I moved to New York soon after we met. I always thought she was right and thought her as my superior. In my mind she had a "perfect life." She had a wholesome family, she was smart, and witty. Our lives were  completely differnt. I was married with a baby on the way but she would always date around. I settled into my life as wife and mother and my priorities changed.

When I moved back to Florida and started spending time with her it was clear to me that I was so wrong about who I thought she was and who I was. She didn't have a great family, she didn't have a perfect life, in fact she was an emotional train wreck. She was always jealous of others and very manipulative. People would always make excuses to avoid her. I saw her true colors, her negative, selfish demeanor and how she was affecting me in my personal life. For some reason I would always go out of my way to help her but when I needed help with my daughter or issues with my hubby she was no where to be found.

I started to realize that I am not that insecure little girl from my past anymore and refused to tolerate this. My hubby started questioning why I was friends with someone like her. Why did I give her my attention when she didn't care about me? Why would I help her when in return she would hurt me? The more I stood up to her and her negative behavior the more controlling she would TRY to be. It basically got to a point where she would insult me and talk behind my back just to make herself feel better. My friendship with her unraveled and though this process I found amazing friends who saw me for me despite what she told them and gave me support as I grew into my own and learned to stand up for myself. After all I am striving for a beautiful, happy life. The most important lesson is I am setting an example for my kid(s). I don't ever want them to think something is OK even though its NOT.

I am still acquainted with people of this nature, but I make no effort to converse with them unless I have to. Life is to short to have negative people who naturally bring you down and if you know of people like that stop making excuses as to why that relationship matters, stand up for yourself you have nothing to lose but the negativity.