Getting criticized, NO FUN!

You know how getting criticized or critiqued by a boss is not always enjoyable. A boss might be very careful not to hurt your feelings and try to be as professional as possible. I've had plenty of those in the work force. It never feels good but you have a chance to go home and get away from the stress. The worst type of criticism though is by your significant other. There are no boundaries as to how you talk to one another and therefore someone gets hurt!

Even though you're trying to work together and have a common goal or at least you think you do, when one starts dumping their thoughts and ideas on the other is no fun! We both have very different personalities, he's calm and mellow and I would consider myself a bull dog when it comes to business so when we have a difference of opinion of how something should have been said or handled things get pretty ugly, FAST!

The horrible thing is you have to see each other even after hours which makes it even worse. I totally understand why spouses shouldn't work together!

I sort of wish I could pack him up and send him away to to his favorite destination, upstate New York..LOL! Just saying I need some room to breathe.

Lovely Date, Happy Couple!

My Hubby took me on amazing date this weekend. All the little things that matter to me like holding hands, talking, and sharing sweet kisses came true! We ignored our phones and focused on “US” Also, I never used to understand this advice but not talking about business or kids on a date is also a good thing to avoid.  We had a great time together!

We didn’t ignore our problems but worked hard at trying to figure out our relationship. And the reality is, after this many years together we really have to make an effort at building and working on our relationship!

Sometimes things don’t end up according to “My Plans” and that’s ok. At least that’s what I’m learning through some of the challenges that I am faced with. Last weekend I didn’t get the perfect Anniversary but this weekend I got the perfect date! Sometimes it’s hard to accept that not everyone revolves around my schedule. I will admit that I am a sucker for paying attention to each challenge and try my hardest to improve.

Happy Moments with hubby after dealing with Stress

After we dropped off our daughter our next destination was my OBGYN for my monthly prenatal visit. I was excited because my hubby could see our little boy on the screen and we can share the joy together.

You know how when you go from feeling this anxiety and then all of the sudden this overwhelming joy the feeling was so powerful!  Like I always say you need to go through hardship, deal with it and learn from it to move on to a happier place. And that place was at my doctor’s office.

The routine visit went well but my doctor reminded me to see a specialist about a condition that I have, which I hate discussing but I told him after the baby is born I will address it.

We headed to lunch, after debating whether we should eat out(our favorite hobby…LOL) or go home..we couldn’t resist stopping by Roccos Tacos. We implement a new rule though, NO CELL PHONEs during meals. 

We had a great lunch/date, discussed our goals, dreams and how we can be better parents and a better couple for one another. I'm learning to appreciate moments like this that make us who we are and not try to be something that we're not.

Hope for the future as we move forward

Today the real test began  as we started processing how we both felt and trying to understand why things ended up the way they did last night. I guess with every challenge how you handle the after math is very important. Ultimate advice is to communicate each other's feelings clearly with out insult or judgement.

Through out today we both found time to express how we felt and got on the same page and expressed our apologies to one another. We both got slight hope that this too shall pass, the most important thing is to learn from this experience and apply to the next challenge we encounter.

Looking forward to our make up date :)

Happy 8 Years to us! Lets see whats left that fits!!

Okay so I have a little problem with finding something to wear tonight. I love to get all dolled up and go out to dinner but right now only like 5% of my closet fits. I've been wearing a lot of black lately but that's super boring. So after digging through my closet I found 2 dresses the "Might" fit...LOL If not, it will be black on black yet again. We shall see how that that turns out.

Looking forward to dinner at a fancy Russian restaurant with a show and live music! I've been craving Russian cuisine for the last few weeks :)

Relationships

As we move through our life we meet all types of people and it is our choice how much attention we allocate to each relationship. Obviously if you care about someone you have a desire to be with them, spend time with them, share your thoughts ideas, life etc. Both parties should have a mutual desire to want to invest into that relationship. Some relationships bring out the best in us and some just weigh us down.

As I've grown in my personal life by making mistakes in all sort of relationships I have learned to appreciate the ones closest to me and how to say "No Thank you" to the toxic people who don't have my best interests at heart, and the most interesting thing I've observed was that sometimes these toxic people don't even have their own best interests at heart.


It's not always easy to distance yourself from people that you don't feel are an asset to your life, but distancing yourself is something you have to learn to do for your own good. My favorite saying is, You are who you spend your time with. So strive to be around people who support you, who inspire you, who help you during those bleak times in your life and watch you life blossom.